Some Life Lessons
Key Life Lessons to note
Photo: David Hundeyin, Founder/Publisher of West Africa Weekly.
I love reading interesting threads and comments on Twitter for insights and different perspectives they offer.
I read an interesting one recently by Founder @WestAfricaWeek, David Hundeyin about his relationship with a Zimbabwean lady that ended when he was not expecting. His story and comments offered a lot of life and relationship lessons.
As I read through many of comments late that evening, some lines stood out for me and will like to share them for the benefit of whoever may learn from them.
Here are some of them with my thoughts:
There is no need to traumatise yourself in pursuit of love
There is nothing wrong in going all out in pursuit of love, but know the limit and don’t make unnecessary sacrifice. If it ends suddenly for whatever reasons, being traumatized at the risk of personal mental health is not worth the trouble. You can agonize over it, but know when to come to the reality that it is all over and you need to move on.
Life isn’t Nollywood
Yes it is not. It is not also any of the make believe films from all the ‘woods’ – Hollywood, Bollywood and others. Someone in the thread puts it more aptly, life is generally unscripted. You don’t know the end from the beginning like any typical script. You learn on the go and hope for the best based on decisions you take which can make or mar you
If only many know better, they would have acted their life story better. Once in a while we get the chance to re-write our life story but only if we live consciously.
Learn to cut your losses
If you don’t, you will pay dearly for it. When the decisions you take are not turning out well as you want, the best thing to do is to minimize your losses by not investing further. Stop investing in bound-to-fail relationships or projects.
As long as you keep going in a wrong direction, you will never get to the right place you desire to get to.
Life is deeper than we think
It is indeed. There is more to what we know per time. It’s a long journey. A marathon and not a sprint like many think. It can be complicated or simple depending on how we make meaning of our realities. Time and life’s realities do wonders eventually as another contributor said and we must be prepared for any eventuality.
Never too late to start all over again but first forgive yourself.
You can always find love again no matter how far gone you are into the one that ends against your wish. The thing is not to hold on to memories of the past when the other partner has moved on.
Forgive and forget.
We can’t always make it work
Responding to the views by many that “We can make it work” when relationships are threatened by unexpected developments, someone wondered if we are like mechanic who can always get a vehicle working no matter the technical fault. There are situations that are hard to “make work” again like they use to be. Even mechanics give up sometimes.
Love is not enough
To use the exact words of the commentator, “it is just one of those hormonal rushes to tell you your preferences in a woman and things that spark up the furnace in your loins. Never make love your station when capacity is a train in transit.” Love will wane, beauty will fade and what will sustain a relationship is more than love. Those who claim love is blind see clearly when reality dawns.
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